Most loving people I know – want to please others. That is not always possible. Most people I know – want to be liked. Also, not always possible. If we are honest, our agenda is commonly about wanting to please others so we can be liked. This can happen at work, home or in every relationship.
We can elicit positive vibrations from our thoughts, we can walk away, deflect or shield ourselves from the “Debbie downers” but Energy vampires need your goodness, your time, your commitment and your consent.
Truisms overheard over the years:
1) Just because someone says it or thinks it (about you) doesn’t make it true.
2) Don’t take anything an unhappy person says too personally.
I am not saying to be an island onto yourself, never believing you ever need improvement. Au contraire. If someone critiques or complains, pause and ask yourself if it is true and please – consider the source. If it is reasonable, do the best to fix, remedy, correct or apologize and change. If, after careful consideration (and some time has passed), it still does not seem to fit or ring true or even if it is asking too much of you at this time, then offer a different solution and let the person grumble.
Two more thoughts:
1) You can never, ever fill another person’s hole for them. They have to figure out how and what to fill it up with.
2) Some people will always find something to complain about and will never be happy, no matter what you do for them.
With the new year coming in soon, be clear about your boundaries and your self worth so the best can come into your life. Sorting through what needs to be disposed of or altered helps you focus on a better direction for 2015, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically.
“Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength.” – Eric Hoffer