Possibility vs. Negativity
I get to vs. I have to
I could vs. I should
I must vs. I will
I won’t vs. I can’t
Instead of I have to get to work, say, I get to go to work.
Instead of I should lose 10 pounds, say, I could lose a few pounds and I will.
Instead of I must reach my goal, say, I will reach my goal.
Instead of I can’t change, say, I won’t change (which is closer to the truth).
When you feel you have to, should, must or can’t do something – re think it and substitute I get to, I could, I will or I won’t.