Afraid of confrontation, disapproval or change, I have dishonored myself and others by not having clear boundaries. At this ripe old age of more than a half a century, I am finally realizing it is not about pleasing everyone. Drawing the line in the sand doesn’t have to be unpleasant, unkind or controlling. Without communicating plainly the behavior I will and will not accept, I am not being emotionally honest. This can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings and resentments on all sides.
Working on self- worth validates the importance of making sure that no matter what the job description, no one should be allowed to abuse, make fun of, say snarky comments or hurt you.
Setting up boundaries takes awareness, compassion, detachment and self-love. It is self-preservation and respect for all parties. Be willing to commit to not overstep in another’s life as well.
Keep yourself well informed about your authentic self. Know what constitutes self-esteem, integrity and decency for your dignified, classy self. You don’t deserve to be talked to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
Thought for the day: I am emotionally strong. I have a lot to offer. I am a miracle. I contribute and I count. I believe in myself. I have strong values, strengths and gifts.