When you are disturbed by someone or something, seek to find solution instead of or after you vent and feel grumpy. If there is no solution because you have no power over them or the circumstance then you probably should invest in your own change in behavior or perspective or attitude. Focus on how to transform it into a wise alchemy of lessons. Respond anew with poise. Uplift the person or situation by not letting your energy get sapped and instead using it as an opportunity for growth/change/knowledge.